If you’re not enjoying the summer holidays, you’re not alone
The summer holidays can be a really exciting time if you’re off on holiday or you have lots of plans with friends, but for some the holidays can be lonely, boring or stressful.
Connect with friends
Research shows more than half of teenagers feel isolated during the holidays, with a quarter saying it’s the loneliest time of the entire year, and one in twenty not expecting to see a single friend during their time off.
It might be your friends are on holiday or you don’t live near them and it’s difficult to meet up, or maybe your family are worried about you going out too much during the pandemic. It’s important to keep those connections going, even if you can’t see friends as often. Maybe you can invite a friend over to a family barbecue or meet them for a walk? You can still see friends as long as you follow the guidance on social distancing.
While social media makes staying in touch a lot easier, bear in mind that relying only on technology can actually make you feel more isolated if you’re not spending quality time with friends. Even if you’re feeling good about the summer holidays, think about reaching out to a friend you haven’t seen or heard from in a while.
Make time for you
We should all take steps everyday to look after ourselves if we’re feeling a bit low, or even to help keep those feelings at bay in the first place. Make a list of things you enjoy and think about planning them in to your week to give you some structure. They don’t have to be big – watch your favourite film, print some photos for your bedroom or try some creative writing.
You’ve probably heard it before but a little bit of exercise can play a big part in looking after your wellbeing. Get some fresh air and go for a walk around your local park. Having a bit more structure or routine to your day and getting a good night’s sleep can make a huge difference to how you feel.
Families can be tricky – for some, the holidays can mean lots of scheduled activities and travelling when all you really want to do is chill out at home. For others, your parents might not spend as much time with you as you would like. It’s normal for tensions to build up and even if you get on really well with your family most of the time there are likely to be some arguments over the holidays. Even though it’s common, it doesn’t make us feel good – find advice and tips on coping with family arguments here and what to do if you ever feel unsafe at home here.
Remember you’re not alone
If you’re feeling down, the most important thing is not to keep it all to yourself. Speak to someone you trust about how you’re feeling. It can be hard to reach out if you’re not sure what it is you’re feeling or think you shouldn’t be feeling like this during the summer, but it’s actually very common to find this a difficult time of year. If you don’t want to speak to a friend or family member, you can try the TIC+ Chat helpline (0300 303 8080) or www.kooth.com. They both have trained counsellors who can help you understand and manage how you’re feeling. You’ll also find lots of self help articles on Kooth and a forum to talk to people who might feel the same way you do.